Messy

So much about you was messy. You were disorganized. You lost paperwork and receipts. You didn't clean up after yourself. You didn't pay attention to details. You skipped steps and cut corners. You gambled and lost money. No, you gambled and squandered money. All the boxes the judge ordered me to pack and ship to you were in your garage. You had gone through them and shifted some stuff around. Your apartment was strewn with who-knows-what. It was chaotic. Packing your place was a challenge. Cleaning your place was a challenge. It took weeks. It was unpleasant. It was confusing. We are now tired. We are mentally and physically exhausted. Your things are, once again, in the driveway. We will have a sale. We will sell things on the internet. We sold things in the desert. We gave things to your neighbors for having helped us load the rented moving truck. We will sell them in the yard. You had been on buying sprees. You had made tens of thousands of dollars vanish. You have bills, unpaid bills. You had let your auto insurance lapse. I am getting your bills now. I am making payments. I am calling. Kyle is calling. We are finalizing things. It's messy. Messy, messy, messy.

6 weeks

You've been gone for almost six weeks now. I didn't know you had made me the executor of your estate---although it didn't surprise me---but I didn't expect for you to have made me the beneficiary of your estate as well. Also, the will you had made had been written before our mediation, the mediation you had so wanted, the mediation you had said was what we should have done from the beginning, the mediation where you gave away your entitlement to my retirement plan. The will didn't mesh with what was in the final divorce settlement. In it you gave the lion's share of 'your' entitlement to my pension plan to cancer foundations. How sad for your daughter and how fortunate that it didn't come to fruition. How sad that she had to read that you would give what you thought was over a million dollars to cancer institutes and something like twenty thousand to her. Fortunately your delusional thinking was, once again, inaccurate. You can't measure and collect your portion of a pension plan by what it would hypothetically pay off over any number of years. It can only be calculated against the existing dollar amount in that plan on the date of separation. What a jerk! Was a selfish, uninformed jerk!